Can you stop being in love with someone? I ask myself over and over again!
If there is one thing I know it's that love sticks. The #relationship might have ended, but all the feelings that come with or usually insist on following you around. I've been there, so much so that I never really stopped loving the first person I was in love with.
I don't know if this is because your first love is supposed to be stubborn or whether I'm simply stubborn when I love somebody. But when that person deeply harms me, it's difficult to let them go. Maybe that's why I keep talking to people who have broken my heart even when it's clear they aren't coming back. Is this something I'm doing to myself or is it that first love never really dies? Am I delusional? I asked myself.
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To find out, I asked two experts —A spiritual matchmaker and a psychiatrist whether you can really stop loving someone you truly love? Both Dr. Grant Brenner, a #psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who practices in New York, and Heather Kristian Strang; A spiritual matchmaker concurred that even if love never goes away completely, the nature of it does change.
You may never stop #loving the person says Dr. Brenner,“But You're Not In Love Because It Takes Two To Tangle".
And according to Strang,“In a spiritual sense, all true love is eternal. Death, break-ups, divorce, Whatever it may be— Cannot destroy true love".
You might still have feelings of fondness and care for your former partner, but when you're not in love, your #brain doesn't drive you to be with them in the same way. #Sexual desire fades away as well. Whether Platonic care and fondness are considered love depends on how you view the nature of love itself. Dr. Brenner says,“Whether you stop being in love depends on the people involved". Some people do fall out of love when the rush and excitement of being around their #significant other fades. This might happen because the strong sense of love you felt for a person was based on sexual infatuation. Which is can still be love I would argue, but a lesser kind.